Struggling to get a good night’s sleep because of your partner’s habits? You’re not alone. A new survey by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) found that 29% of Americans sleep in a different bed or room just to get some rest. In 2023, around 35% admitted to doing this occasionally or consistently.
It turns out, incompatible sleep habits are a common issue. But what does this mean for couples?
What is a “sleep divorce”?
You might’ve heard the term “sleep divorce.” It sounds serious, right? But it’s not about ending a relationship. It’s about getting good sleep.
According to Dr. Seema Khosla, the medical director of the North Dakota Center for Sleep and a medical advisor for MedBridge Healthcare, sleep divorce simply means sleeping in separate beds or even different bedrooms. “It’s about prioritizing sleep health and addressing the sleep issues that may be eroding a relationship,” said Dr. Khosla. Issues like snoring, tossing and turning, or different sleep schedules can make sleep difficult for both partners.
Rather than being a sign of relationship trouble, this arrangement lets couples talk honestly about habits that disrupt sleep. The goal? Uninterrupted, restorative rest.
Changes couples are making
People are also making other changes to accommodate their partners. One-third of U.S. adults (33%) said they go to sleep at a different time than desired. One in 10 (11%) have switched to using a silent alarm to avoid disturbing their partner. In addition, 10% of people have tried the trendy “Scandinavian sleep method,” in which each person sleeps with their own blanket or comforter.
Why sleep matters
It’s not just about how you sleep — it’s about how long. The AASM recommends seven or more hours of sleep for adults. Getting enough sleep boosts health, energy and productivity.
“We know that getting a good night’s sleep is important for both health and happiness,” said Dr. Khosla. “So, if you’re continually sacrificing sleep quality and quantity — due to your partner’s persistent snoring, for example — then it may be time to discuss your sleeping arrangements.”
Small adjustments or even separate beds might be all it takes for a good night’s sleep.
Find support for better sleep
If sleep troubles are affecting you or your partner, you don’t have to deal with it alone. To find an AASM-accredited sleep center near you, check out www.sleepeducation.org/sleep-center.
